Lately people have been asking me if I'm ready for the baby to be here. If I'm being particularly truthy, I respond with an emphatic "JESUS GOD NO!"
I understand that hardly anyone is ever really ready for the kinds of curveballs that having a kid throws your way, but I feel particularly unprepared. We have a few ideas about what we want to teach the kid and how we want to raise him. We've picked out paint chips for the studio/nursery. We've purchased some furniture, but it's not yet assembled. Most of my yarn and fabric stash remains unpacked. The baby blanket is not yet done.
I guess I feel so unprepared because there's so much I want to have done RIGHT THIS VERY SECOND, and it's causing a lot of anxiety. Is that normal?
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Though I don't have children, I would assume so? I think it's hard to prepare for such a large event and FEEL prepared enough - maybe just breathe and then make up a list of the things you can control before they arrive -- and work from there! :)
Girl...call me! Yes, it is completely normal! Why? Because you are experiencing something that you know will change your life. While having LIly is more than anything I could have asked for, I remember feeling so out of control and had a ton of anxiety. (not normal for me at ALL). The best advise I can give you is to reach out to have people help you. Also, most people go through a nesting period where I swear... you become something like a superwoman. You will find yourself cleaning the house, painting, and putting the last bit of decorations up all at 2:00 in the morning and still have enough energy to do it all again the next night. So PLEASE, call me if you need, anytime. There are a ton of things that people don't really share about being pregnant and it can be overwhelming. Love you guys and you will be great parents...one day at a time.
Jemison Fam: I will be calling YOU!
Brittney: I can't believe that I didn't think to make a list. I seriously need to do that. Everything is just a disorganized pile of to-do items and it's kind of giving me a panic attack just thinking about it!
Hi, just came over from Maiden Metallurgist's blog after seeing your comment there - I was crying with joy at her general birth story, but in anger at how she was treated by the nurses. You're right to reconsider a hospital birth, or at least reconsider which hospital! I just had my first baby 7 weeks ago, in a huge hospital, but with a great group of midwives who never tried to push any agenda on me. Birth story here: http://frugalveganmom.wordpress.com/2011/03/10/janes-natural-birth-story/
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